How to Get Over An Ex
Hey y'all so I am moving a couple of blog post onto this blog from my other blog. It just got too much dealing with more than 1 blog. So yea, I think there is about 10 blogs that I am moving onto this blog. For second post moving onto this blog is all about my opinion on how to get over your ex.
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I made a video, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZ6AxBcxUbU, but i wanted to go into more detail of how to get over an ex-boyfriend
. Most girls, after a breakup want to go back to their ex. But you should never do that. If he dumped you then why would you want to go back to him, obviously he isn't any amount of time to waste over anymore. If you dumped him, then why did you dump him in the first place if all you do is want to get back together after you break up. It makes no sense! Anyways onto the steps on how to get over an ex-boyfriend:
So the first thing your going to do is cry. Denial doesn’t solve anything. If you need to cry it out, do so. Or maybe you need to head to the gym and find an available punching bag. Be honest about your ever-changing emotions.
Next thing you want to do is to cut off any sort of contact with your ex.Don’t try to be friends. Don’t still hang out with his buddies. Don’t text him when his favorite song plays on the radio. The easiest and healthiest way to get over someone is to initiate clear boundaries. De-friend him on Facebook, unfollow him on Twitter, and stop getting your nails done with his mom. “Out of sight” doesn’t necessarily mean “out of mind,” but intentional space can certainly make getting over an ex easier.
Spend some time with your friends. Your finally free! Now that he’s out of your life – or she’s out, this article applies to exes of both gender – seek out supportive friends. Fill that time you would spend with the ex with those who love you and want the best for you. Catch up with the people you may have neglected when you were head over heels and distracted. Don’t just retell breakup stories either; let your thoughts become less narcissistic.
Then what you want to do is get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex. Throw out his magazines and toothbrush lying around your house. Don’t ask for your stuff back. Stop cheering for his team. Don’t wear his old shirt to bed. Let yourself mourn and start fresh, with no lingering reminders or memory triggers of what once was. (If you hate ketchup and it’s only in the fridge because he’s addicted to it, toss it.)
Done of talking. Get a journal and write it down. Give your friends’ ears a break — and give your troubled mind an outlet – by journal-ling your thoughts and feelings. Instead of calling up your ex and leaving him angry voice mail messages, write him a not-to-be-sent letter to help you process your emotions. Reread your words and try to identify what is really bothering you – and what you need from a relationship going forward. Write a letter to yourself about why the relationship wouldn’t have worked, regardless of who ended it. (Don’t just remember the good times; remember the bad ones, too.)
Stop analyzing and regretting! If you initiated the breakup, don’t let yourself second-guess it. After you’ve talked and journaled about your frustrations, stop analyzing the play-by-play of your relationship. Don’t get stuck in the “would haves” and “should haves,” stop looking for reasons and explanations, and learn to accept the finality of the breakup.
You want to stay active & you don't want to debby downer who stays indoors thinking about what could of happened if you guys didn't break up. Remember that punching bag at the gym? Use it. Clear your head with some physical activity. Join a running group, find an intramural team, play basketball at a nearby park. Even taking your dog for more walks is good for both the body and soul. A little fresh air can go a long way when your brain is taxed and your heart is weary. Too many days on the couch will only make you start resenting yourself. Don’t let a breakup justify sloth-like behavior.
Take advantage of your new found freedom. Now that you’re single, take advantage of the extra time and freedom such a status allows. What have you been missing since you and “the ex” got together? Enjoy a few more girls’ nights out (or guys’ nights out), take a class, spend more time with your family, and indulge in a few guilty pleasures. Pursue happiness in other areas. Look at this next chapter in your life as a fresh start. Get organized. Purge. Evaluate what your dreams, priorities and bucket-list items are – and start chasing them.
Make sure you give yourself time and space. Even if you’ve done everything on this list, understand that getting over a relationship can take a lot of time. Let yourself off the hook when you have a bad day, or burst into tears for no apparent reason. Give yourself permission to heal slowly, one long day at a time. You’ve likely been through a lot. Be gentle with yourself.
Stay single a while. You don't need to rush back into a relationship. The rebound relationship is rarely successful. Even if your instinct is to bounce back with someone new in your life – choose to remain single until the edges of bitterness, anger and sadness soften.
And remember, enter into your next relationship when hope and optimism returns. Give the next guy or gal a fair shot at being “the one.”
check it out:
I made a video, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZ6AxBcxUbU, but i wanted to go into more detail of how to get over an ex-boyfriend
. Most girls, after a breakup want to go back to their ex. But you should never do that. If he dumped you then why would you want to go back to him, obviously he isn't any amount of time to waste over anymore. If you dumped him, then why did you dump him in the first place if all you do is want to get back together after you break up. It makes no sense! Anyways onto the steps on how to get over an ex-boyfriend:So the first thing your going to do is cry. Denial doesn’t solve anything. If you need to cry it out, do so. Or maybe you need to head to the gym and find an available punching bag. Be honest about your ever-changing emotions.
Next thing you want to do is to cut off any sort of contact with your ex.Don’t try to be friends. Don’t still hang out with his buddies. Don’t text him when his favorite song plays on the radio. The easiest and healthiest way to get over someone is to initiate clear boundaries. De-friend him on Facebook, unfollow him on Twitter, and stop getting your nails done with his mom. “Out of sight” doesn’t necessarily mean “out of mind,” but intentional space can certainly make getting over an ex easier.
Spend some time with your friends. Your finally free! Now that he’s out of your life – or she’s out, this article applies to exes of both gender – seek out supportive friends. Fill that time you would spend with the ex with those who love you and want the best for you. Catch up with the people you may have neglected when you were head over heels and distracted. Don’t just retell breakup stories either; let your thoughts become less narcissistic.
Then what you want to do is get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex. Throw out his magazines and toothbrush lying around your house. Don’t ask for your stuff back. Stop cheering for his team. Don’t wear his old shirt to bed. Let yourself mourn and start fresh, with no lingering reminders or memory triggers of what once was. (If you hate ketchup and it’s only in the fridge because he’s addicted to it, toss it.)
Done of talking. Get a journal and write it down. Give your friends’ ears a break — and give your troubled mind an outlet – by journal-ling your thoughts and feelings. Instead of calling up your ex and leaving him angry voice mail messages, write him a not-to-be-sent letter to help you process your emotions. Reread your words and try to identify what is really bothering you – and what you need from a relationship going forward. Write a letter to yourself about why the relationship wouldn’t have worked, regardless of who ended it. (Don’t just remember the good times; remember the bad ones, too.)
Stop analyzing and regretting! If you initiated the breakup, don’t let yourself second-guess it. After you’ve talked and journaled about your frustrations, stop analyzing the play-by-play of your relationship
. Don’t get stuck in the “would haves” and “should haves,” stop looking for reasons and explanations, and learn to accept the finality of the breakup.You want to stay active & you don't want to debby downer who stays indoors thinking about what could of happened if you guys didn't break up. Remember that punching bag at the gym? Use it. Clear your head with some physical activity. Join a running group, find an intramural team, play basketball at a nearby park. Even taking your dog for more walks is good for both the body and soul. A little fresh air can go a long way when your brain is taxed and your heart is weary. Too many days on the couch will only make you start resenting yourself. Don’t let a breakup justify sloth-like behavior.
Take advantage of your new found freedom. Now that you’re single, take advantage of the extra time and freedom such a status allows. What have you been missing since you and “the ex” got together? Enjoy a few more girls’ nights out (or guys’ nights out), take a class, spend more time with your family, and indulge in a few guilty pleasures. Pursue happiness in other areas. Look at this next chapter in your life as a fresh start. Get organized. Purge. Evaluate what your dreams, priorities and bucket-list items are – and start chasing them.
Make sure you give yourself time and space. Even if you’ve done everything on this list, understand that getting over a relationship can take a lot of time. Let yourself off the hook when you have a bad day, or burst into tears for no apparent reason. Give yourself permission to heal slowly, one long day at a time. You’ve likely been through a lot. Be gentle with yourself.
Stay single a while. You don't need to rush back into a relationship. The rebound relationship is rarely successful. Even if your instinct is to bounce back with someone new in your life – choose to remain single until the edges of bitterness, anger and sadness soften.
And remember, enter into your next relationship when hope and optimism returns. Give the next guy or gal a fair shot at being “the one.”
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